Category: disciplining children

• Responding to the Button Pushers in our life

  Posted at 7:00 am by sneuhofer, on February 28, 2018

  Romans 8:28 (HCSB) We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God: those who are called according to His purpose.

   We seem to be walking through a very difficult season…actually since he was able to walk my son has given us all a run for our money. He is strong willed…and he knows it. God bless his little heart. I remember this one weekend when he was about 7 years old he kept pushing my buttons until he had finally reached the very last one. You know the “last button” I’m talking about right? It’s the button all the way over to the right that, when pushed, turns you into the VERY worst version of yourself. Perhaps your child or someone in your life has pushed your buttons and you’ve been there too. The button goes off and the angry person inside of you comes out. I know that’s what happens when my last button is pushed. As I remember that particular weekend going… my son pushed my last button and I instantly turned into a raving lunatic – the very worst version of myself. After everything was said and done, I felt AWFUL. I don’t want to be that type of parent. If want to be stern yes, but angry…ABSOLUTELY NOT.

  The purpose of my discipline should teach my son right from wrong. But when he sees my fly off of the handle what is he really seeing? I don’t think it’s a reflection of Christ that’s for sure. Whoever said “parenting isn’t easy” was right.  It really takes a great deal of p-p-p-patience. I think I am lacking in that area just a bit. Ugh…patience…I guess I know where I need to grow to be more like Christ. My frustration and anger should not be my cause for discipline. After all, that’s not how God disciplines us. He is full of mercy and grace, slow to anger and abounds in love. (Ex. 34:6, Numbers 14:18, Nehemiah 9:17, Psalm 86:15, 103:8, 145:8, Joel 2:13, Jonah 4:2).

  God always seems to remind me of simple and small truths during worship sets at church. As I heard myself singing the words “and I’ll sing because you are good, and I’ll dance because you are good, and I’ll shout because you are good, you are good to me” I was reminded of all the good things Christ has done in my life. He is working out His perfect plan in me and I can see where he has used the good and the bad to bring me to where I am at this very moment. Sometimes I just lose sight of this truth.

  I desperately want my son to see God’s goodness through me not the  angry human side that becomes a maniac mommy when her buttons are pushed. When God brings these simple truths into a moment of clarity, I worship Him and thank him what He was doing in my life, and asked Him to forgive me for the way I respond when my son gets to “button pushing.”

  Father, help me love with your love and help me to be a reflection of Christ to my family and to others. I know you will use everything in my life…the good and the bad… the mold me into something beautiful.

  
  You know, God will use everything in your life too…we were all made on purpose for a purpose. He doesn’t want us to be “stuck” by the events of our life. He wants us to transformed by them according to His purpose.

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• Nuggets of Hope for Parenting

  Posted at 7:00 am by sneuhofer, on October 25, 2017

  Proverbs 29:15 (MSG) Wise discipline imparts wisdom; spoiled adolescents embarrass their parents.

  Proverbs 29:15 (GW) A spanking and a warning produce wisdom, but an undisciplined child disgraces his mother.

  Proverbs 29:15 (NCV) Correction and punishment make children wise, but those left alone will disgrace their mother.

  Is it just me or were any other mother’s out there blessed to have been given the gift of a strong-willed child? I know without a doubt there are other mothers like me out there. In fact, I am glad there are…I have sought their advice, listened to their words of wisdom, tried the same or similar techniques they’ve used to discipline their children, and used their shoulders to cry on more times than I can count.

  God’s word is clear in Proverbs 29:15, discipline, correction and punishment produce wisdom in a child. Discipline…my least favorite part of parenting. I’d rather my son be the well-behaved, well-mannered child I know he can be. As parents, don’t we all want this? Realistically this is not going to be the case all the time. When discipline is necessary, I can’t just “let it slide” because if I do, I’m being disobedient myself. As a Christian, I desire to live a life that pleases and brings glory to God. If I let the discipline of my child go, I am not pleasing God at all.

  Let’s just face it, parenting is just tough sometimes, even for those parents whose children are not strong-willed. So many times I’ve wanted to throw my hands up in the air and scream at the top of my voice “I can’t do this anymore!!!” In these times I’ve learned to lean on the promises found in God’s word. I call these promises my “nuggets of hope” to help me make it through the day and sometimes, the minute.

  I’d like to share a few of my “nuggets of hope” with you. I pray they encourage you and strengthen you just as they have me.

  Deuteronomy 31:6 (GW) Be strong and courageous. Don’t tremble! Don’t be afraid of them! The Lord your God is the one who is going with you. He won’t abandon you or leave you.”

  Galatians 6:9 (MSG) So let’s not allow ourselves to get fatigued doing good. At the right time we will harvest a good crop if we don’t give up, or quit.

  James 1:5 (NCV) But if any of you needs wisdom, you should ask God for it. He is generous to everyone and will give you wisdom without criticizing you.

  Psalm 138:8 (GW) The Lord will do everything for me. O Lord, your mercy endures forever. Do not let go of what your hands have made.

  Psalm 127:3 (NCV) Children are a gift from the Lord; babies are a reward.

  Are you facing a challenge when it comes to disciplining your child? Please know that discipline brings wisdom. Even though the child may not realize they are “gaining wisdom” at the time, the Bible promises:

  Proverbs 22:6 (NCV) Train children to live the right way, and when they are old, they will not stray from it.

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